Motivated by sorrow

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To Be Motivated By Sorrow





Correspondence by Rabbi Menachem M. Schneerson, The Lubavitcher Rebbe

By the Grace of G-d

1st Day of Chanukah, 5730 [December 5, 1969].

Brooklyn, NY



I was saddened to hear of the passing of your mother ע"ה.



I extend to you, and to all the bereaved family, my sincere sympathy and the traditional blessing of condolence –



.המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים



May you not know of any sorrow in the future, but only goodness and benevolence be with you always.



Cordially,



[Signature: M. Schneerson]



P.S. On the basis of our personal acquaintance, and what I have heard about you from mutual friends, I take the liberty of suggesting to you that in addition to Kaddish at the daily prayers, followed by Kaddish d'Rabonon after Mishnayos, as is customary, you also include learning 1ברבים a practical הלכה,2 such as from the Kitzur Shulchon Oruch. This is of special importance in our day and age, and it has many worthwhile implications. Above all, it is a Zechus Horabim,3 coupled with a special Zechus4 for the soul of the departed. Also, furthering adherence to the Will of G-d, especially by a person of influence, gives practical expression to יתגדל ויתקדש שמיה רבא5 ]



I also wish to make a further point in the light of Chassidus, which gives a new insight into the concept of Teshuvoh.



Teshuvoh, as interpreted in Chassidus, does not mean "repentance" (which is only one aspect of it), but -- as the word indicates -- a return of the soul to its "source and root." The "return" referred to here is not the return of the soul to its Maker at the end of its allotted years on earth, but its return to its true essence. As explained by the Alter Rebbe in his Tanya, chapter 31, this is achieved when the Jew is engaged in Torah and Mitzvos, especially when it is permeated with inner joy and inspiration. For at that time, too, the soul "departs from the body" -- in the sense that it abandons the bodily needs, inclinations and lusts. Moreover, at such time the soul actually involves the body in the spiritual exercise, inducing it, too, to obey the Will of G-d, the Source of the soul and of all existence, so that not only the soul returns to its Source, but it also takes the physical body along with it.



The above provides an insight into what seems to be a somewhat "incongruous" observation by the Rambam, 6 namely, that the period of mourning observed by a bereaved family has to do with Teshuvoh. [And it is written, "But the living shall take it to heart."7] One would expect that the first natural reaction of a person sustaining such a loss would be that of resentment and complaint. However, in the light of what has been said above, it is understandable why, on deeper reflection, the shock of seeing a dear soul depart this life should induce Teshuvoh. For this is a fitting time to reflect upon the opportunities which have been given to the soul to "return" to its Source while it is here on earth, housed in its body, and in this experience of Teshuvoh to live a meaningful and happy life to a ripe old age.



I trust there is no need for further elaboration on the above to you.



A word of explanation. This entire piece has been written as a P.S. and on a separate sheet, not because it is of lesser importance than the letter preceding it. [On the contrary!] However, our Sages wisely reminded us that allowances should be made for a person in distress. The thought might just occur that -- here comes a man who is not a relative, and wishes to take “advantage” of a profound and unhappy experience in order to advance “his ideals.” For this reason this part of the letter has been separated from the first. But in truth the two parts are not really separate but intimately connected. Besides, and this is the main point: these ideals are not only mine, but (also?) yours. To quote the Alter Rebbe again, "a Jew neither desires nor is capable of being separated from G-dliness." Only circumstances sometimes obscure the truth. “I believe with complete faith" that this is the way to gratify the soul which is in the World of Truth, and I venture to say that you also share this belief.



May G-d grant that henceforth you will actualize the above by the stimulus of happy occasions, in accordance with the contents of the said chapter in Tanya, through the study of our Torah, תורת אמת,8 the kind of study that leads to action, the fulfillment of the commandments in the daily life. And may you together with your wife bring up your children in this spirit. I refer not only to your natural children but also to your "children" figuratively speaking, namely, those who look up to you as teacher and mentor, as our Sages interpret the words, "And thou shall teach them diligently unto thy children" - "thy students."